Calm Down

What good is a psychic if all they do is tell you things you already know? You’re tense. Yeah, and the Pope is a Catholic. But, did you think that maybe somebody who doesn’t know you who picks up on the fact that you’re tense might also be a nudge from the Universe that you need to calm down some?

Why would you want to calm down when you get so much accomplished in a wired state of mind? Frantic and Frenzied you’re a Firecracker. Mello you’re a Zero.

Well, that’s an opinion. Calm down anyway.

Ask yourself why you’re moving at top speed all the time. Ask yourself why it is important? You might be surprised at some of the answers that pop up. Calmer people don’t have high blood pressure. Calmer people live longer. Calmer people seem to enjoy living in the moment. At least, that’s what I figure. It couldn’t hurt, could it? Just to calm down a little bit? This coming weekend set aside an hour to do something you’ve wanted to do for some time now. Something fun. Something that doesn’t involve work or chores or cleaning up the garage.

What Would You Do?

Okay. You want to increase readership. And, you start thinking about the kinds of things that people post on their blogs. At least, you’re thinking about the stuff that gets read a lot. And, you’ve got some options: Bad News and its opposing force Good News. Also, you’ve got Boring News and Non-News. I suppose the stuff I write about would come under the heading of Non-News.

I don’t address current issues, so it’s not news, is it? If that is true, then what I do here isn’t even Non-News. What is it I do in this blog?

It’s more along the lines of a journal, I suppose. Nothing wrong with journals, but you’re supposed to talk about really private stuff in journals. And, I don’t here. Okay, I do get close to the mark with occasional reports of hemorrhoids and things like that. But, there are things I don’t talk about, much anyway. Like where I work. I don’t talk about the folks I work with. Not that they aren’t an interesting bunch of people. They’re actually a hoot. But, I wouldn’t want to embarrass them if one of them happened to see themselves in print. So, work-place things are not discussed here. With the exception of every once in awhile when I’m acting like a bear or Spirit intervenes to save my butt from a fiery work mistake.

Now, I will relate work related dreams occasionally. Like this morning’s dream on how I hung up on a customer who was there to complain and I couldn’t understand him. He had some sort of speech impediment and was also trying to carry on a conversation with people while he was on the phone with me. I hung up on him figuring that he’d call back when he was less distracted. But, I was also hot. I suppose the goal would be to not get hot. I really was hot…physically hot. I’d gone back to bed a couple of hours earlier to catch a lovely Saturday morning go back to bed because I don’t have to go to work snooze. Also, my feet were freezing so I turned the heating pad on high and put it down at the bottom of the bed for my frozen tootsies. Voila. I got hot in a dream. And, not a sexy hot either. Mad hot.

Okay, so how to smooth through life, enjoying yourself and not allowing events and people to get you hot? The answer was in the dream. Hang up on the guy and he’ll call back later. Maybe. The other solution was to stay on the line waiting for him to clarify his position and make his complaint. Meanwhile I have to suffer through his shit. I suppose another option would be to stay on the line and not suffer through his shit but to do a crossword puzzle or something to keep myself amused. Or, just fire up the computer and do some surfing. So, there are 3 different possible solutions to an angry customer. Actually, there is a fourth solution. Stay on the line with the guy, have an incredible amount of patience, figure out what his beef is and try to solve it.

What would you do?

Will I Get Married?

One of the reasons a person might go to a psychic is to get reassurance on something they are contemplating doing. The psychic will, likely, see either rocky road or smooth sailing, but in both cases it is still what you plan to do that is the more important event. Based on a pscyhic’s advice of, “no” would you not marry somebody you are in love with?

Every relationship is occasionally beset with rocky roads as the two people learn to live as a couple. You learn to forgive, you learn understanding, you learn compassion, but eventually the association is going to settle into the ordinariness of everyday living. Granted, there are areas of concern with somebody who has or who develops a substance abuse problem, or with someone who has trouble taking care of their money. But, they either eventually get help, the couple stays in relationship even though one of them or both are unhappy, or the couple splits. In the first instance there is a constructive and creative attempt to address the situation. In the middle example we’re all stuck. In the final example the solution is to break off the association and start new lives. Is one better than any of the other choices? No. They are what you’ve chosen to do. Are there repercussions? Certainly. Are you willing to pay the price? That’s your decision.

Based on someone else’s recommendation, what would you do?

I suppose, if you were going to ask a friend for their advice about your upcoming or contemplated nuptials you could also go to a psychic and ask their advice too. My advice? Don’t ask either one of them. This is an incredibly important decision that demands your complete attention. This is one of those things you have to do by yourself and it is one of those things that you just cannot blame on somebody else. Make the decision and then take the responsibility to nurture and care for the relationship.

In the Mood

Do you have to be in the mood to experience something spiritual? Is having that “feeling” of joy and ecstasy, of tingly sensations that ripples from the base of your skull down to your toes mean that finally you’ve done it and have experienced contact with the spiritual side of things?

Or, is everything spiritual? I was yakking with my guides the other day on the way home from work. Actually, I was whining and generally feeling sorry for myself. I thought that I’d really get a boost to my spirits if I could feel God, if I could feel that spiritual side of things I almost can’t describe. That’s when they said I should sort of look for it no matter how I felt. That the sensation of spirit doesn’t mean that’s the only time I’m in the zone.

Something to think about.

Words of Wisdom

I was poking around in the kitchen section at The White Elephant Sale over the weekend and spied the coffee cups. I’m always on the lookout for that “special” cup that I can use as a writer’s cup. It’s not going to imbue me with the ability to write wonderfully. It’s just a special cup I can use when I’m writing. I have several of them already, but you can never have too many.

So, there I am trying to look at all the cups and there are people crawling all over the place. I leave, take a few turns around the other displays and come back to have another look. Still too many people. I waltz around the area again looking at other things and find myself in front of the coffee cups for the third time. This time there isn’t anybody else around. I’ve got the place to myself and can look at my leisure. I don’t see anything that fills the bill. I’m a little disappointed, but not terribly so. It was just a thought that maybe I’d find a special writer’s cup.

Right then a voice in my head goes, “Over there.” And, when I look in the direction specified and still don’t see it they said, “In the corner.” I reach three cups deep on the shelf and smack in the corner is the cup I bought. It said, “Words of Wisdom” on it. Couldn’t ask for anything better than that.

Lucid Dreams

Everybody dreams. Everybody without exception dreams. That said, now, let’s make it interesting.

What can you do with your dreams? Well, for starters try to remember them. Make a real commitment to yourself that you’re going to remember your dreams. Say this to yourself, remind yourself several, many, lots of times during the course of the day. Morning, noon and night. Say, “I remember my dreams.” Say, “I awaken after my dreams to write them down.”

Now, in writing down your dreams just jot down five or six key words. Not the whole thing. Not two pages of detailed explanation of your dream. Just five or six words. In the morning look at your list and then write your dream out. Give yourself an extra 20 minutes in the morning. Keep a special notebook. They sell all sorts of wonderful, colorful, fun notebooks for the kids. They don’t cost much. Keep a little flash light next to your bed so you don’t awaken your spouse while you’re writing down the significant words of your dream.

It will happen that as time goes by you’ll be able to remember more of your dreams each night, but, in the beginning just try to get one.

The next thing, then, after you’re remembering your dreams is to decide that, now, you can dream lucidly. What? That’s all? Yes. You decide to do it.

What exactly is a lucid dream? Well, compare it to a regular dream. A regular dream you don’t have a whole lot of control over. It happens to you. A lucid dream you consciously decide to do something in your dream. You have control.

Say, it’s a nightmare. These people are chasing you. You’re afraid. You’re running and mired in the muck of the earth as it sucks up around your feet to prevent you from getting away from the bad guys. Sound familiar? Right. So, if this nightmare morphed itself into a lucid dream what would happen? Why, you’d decide to remove yourself from the danger. Superman swoops down and scoops you up to carry you away to a wonderful island paradise. Or….this bulldozer comes in and plows through the bad guys like a bowling ball through ten pins. Or…the bad guys start inflating and explode. Whatever. It’s your dream and you are in control.

A lucid dream is when you feel like you’re awake. It’s when you know in your heart that you are dreaming and you can observe the dream while it’s going on. You can feel things. You can hear things. You can smell things. It’s pretty amazing.

A lucid dream I had once began as a regular dream. I found myself on a path and that’s when I got lucid. I reached down in my dream to pull the seeds off of a piece of tall grass that was growing beside the path. I felt the seeds pulling off of the stalk into my hands. That’s when I realized I was dreaming. I was so excited that I straightened up and began shouting to a bunch of guides I saw in the distance that I was dreaming. I said, “I’m dreaming! I’m dreaming!” I was jumping up and down too, my arm raised in the air to show them the grass I had clutched in my hand. I was so excited I woke myself up.

Once you’re accustomed to dreaming lucidly use this skill. Use it to practice those awful presentations you have to give and agonize over. Use it to practice learning to play the mandolin. Use those dreams to work out your emotional and psychological hurts. Use those dreams to meet other Folk in Spirit.

I recommend Stephen LaBerge's book, "Lucid Dreaming". You'll start having lucid dreams even before you've finished reading it.

About Psychic Readings

One of the things I do is occasionally go to a psychic. You’d think that because I’m a psychic I wouldn’t be plunking down the dough to get a psychic reading, but I do. Occasionally. There’s the old saying, “You can’t see the forest for the trees.” That holds true for me. I don’t know how true it is for other psychics, but I’ve sort of noticed it happening with me. I can’t read for myself all that objectively.

The problem is I want what anybody else wants and that’s an assurance that the future is rosy and bright. I sit on the fence with this. I know, now, from what the guides have told me and from what I’ve learned along the way everything that happens to me is the best thing to come to pass for me. If it is a disaster then that disaster was the best way for me to learn whatever it was I was supposed to learn. They didn’t say it wouldn’t suck.

I guess what I need to do is learn how to move through the sucky parts gracefully. Like yesterday. It was the end of the day and I was struggling with a stupid rubber band stretching the bejesus out of it to get it around a stack of paperwork. It snapped. A lovely lilac colored rubber band. A thick, heavy duty rubber band. It hit me in the face. Guess what I said? Real loud too. I could have said something else. The stinging has stopped. What has not stopped is the memory of what I said. It certainly wasn’t graceful. My mother would never have said that. I guess I just need to forgive myself, resolve not to do it the next time and stop trying to stretch rubber bands past their limit.

Anyway, one thing I’ve noticed with folks when they ask for a reading from me is are they doing the right thing? Here’s some psychic advice, free of charge. Yes, you are on the right track. It might have been quicker had you done x, y and z, but you’re still going to get there. And, the other little bit of advice I’m trying to apply to myself as well is to live in the moment and enjoy life more. Try not to worry about the future.

How Many Guides Do I Have?

It depends. I would certainly say more than one. They trade off shifts working with you. Maybe you’ll have one guide from the time before you’ve been conceived. Then, they are there for you while you’re in your mother’s womb. Same one or different one when you’re born? Maybe when you’re six years old you get a new one. When you’re in your teens another one. Maybe two there. (The guides are laughing at me.) Maybe as an adult the first one you had comes back again. Who knows? It’s all different. But, you definitely do not have the same guide throughout the years of your life. Did somebody tell you that you have a lot of guides? That’s nice. Maybe you’re such a hard nut to crack that you need a team of them. I’m teasing. It’s okay to have one guide at a time. It’s okay to have a bunch of them. It doesn’t make you a better or lesser person.

Readings for Links

Once upon a time I had 90 links for Talking To Spirit in Google. I looked this morning and they’ve knocked it down to 25. Wonderful. So, there’s a project. Generally, I hate going out looking for links. This time I’m going to pay for them. Sort of. I don’t have the ready cash to spend, but I do have the ability to give a mini-reading. I need a text link on a Google page rank 2 or better site. No porn, please. I’ll reciprocate with a reading, or if you’d prefer a reciprocal link instead. I can’t guarantee a spot on my home page, but, I’ve got many other pages at my disposal. Also, there are the blogs where we can get links going. The reading will be about one page typewritten that I will email to you. It will mostly be channeled information.

Happy 14th

Today is my channeling anniversary. I’ve been channeling 14 years, now. All morning I was figuring it out and kept coming up with 13 years. I didn’t understand it. I’d been going around for a long time telling people I’ve been channeling 13 years. Could it be that half way through I’d figured to just round it up? No, my husband, DeeDude, helped me out. Right away he said it was 14 years. What had I been doing wrong? I thought it was 2006. Still.

Once, when I was 26 years old I went around all year thinking I was 27. So, this isn’t something that has crept up on me. I’m just a ditz with dates.

A Channeling Funny

The other day my neighbor blew through quoting from Leviticus about how you shouldn't put your trust in or listen to mediums. I just don't know what to say when he says stuff like that. Right then a voice in my head said, "You've got nothing to worry about. You're a large."

Some Channeling - Guide Parts are in Purple

The other morning I had a dream. It wasn’t actually much. I was lying on my back looking up at the clouds in the sky. It turned from sky into water and I saw an ocean liner breaking in half. Then, I woke up. Who knows if it means anything.

Being a psychic with a day job is hard. Half of the time you’ve got to act normal when you really don’t feel like acting normal. What’s normal? Anyway, the part of me that channels is suppressed, or at least kept to myself, during the time when I’m at work. Once I get home, lately anyway, I’m too tired to do much more than feed the cats, fix myself something to eat and turn on the tube. DeeDude always gets home a couple of hours after I’ve been home and he doesn’t want to do anything more than grab something quick to eat and watch 48 Hours or Cops. I think we’re in a rut.

I haven’t been sitting here to add squat to these blogs or to my website. There’s been zero energy. And, from where I’m standing the situation doesn’t look like it’s going to be changing. I think I’m in a rut.

It’s not like I can quit my day job, go to Berkeley, mix it up with all the psychics who, I think, tend to congregate there or find ones in Oakland who have to keep it under wraps like I do.

Okay…the guides….

If you’d like to shift over on the bump on a log you’re sitting on right now, Dear, we might add a little bit to what you are writing. These psychics as you refer to them are really no different than yourself in that they must have a job to support themselves and their families. You cannot, though you’d like to, quit your job. You also cannot afford to alarm your co-workers or your supervisors with behavior you feel suitable to a full blown psychic. It is all well and good to follow your heart in terms of employment, but if you have responsibilities you cannot or will not release then you are stuck as it were. The next step, then, if you are faced with holding onto a job that you are not well pleased with because you cannot express your more flaming psychic nature would be to express that nature somewhere else. Here, for instance.

Nobody from your work reads your blog. They just are not interested. So, there’s no need to be a staid and somber psychic going through menopause which, if we understand your views correctly, you are not well pleased with.

Okay….so I should let my hair down here? I wished I drank again.

You do not drink, nor are you going to start again. You can learn how to express yourself without the need for the excuse of alcohol or the prop of a cigarette in your hand.

Sometimes, you don’t pussy foot around, do you?

No. And, if we might say, Dear, it’s been awhile since you have channeled us in this manner. It will be of interest to those who would like to learn how to channel to see how you do it.

Well, you’ve got a point there. I am glad it is Friday.

That’s something else we can address. Why do your spirits rise so on Fridays?

Because it’s Friday. Because I can do fun things tonight and over the weekend.

Uh, we might point out to you that you could do fun things other mornings just as you did channeling during the month of November in the mornings before you went to work.

Thanks.